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Love Thursday

Teach­ing, orig­i­nally uploaded by Bipo­lar­Lawyer­Cook.

Every year, sched­ule per­mit­ting, I judge the same mock tri­als in which I took part as a civil clinic stu­dent at Boston Uni­ver­sity School of Law. I learned more about lawyer­ing and human nature in that year-long class than in any other course I took in law school. In many ways, what I’ve learned since then has only been refine­ment upon the basics I was taught, way back then. It’s a joy to be able to give back, by shar­ing the knowl­edge I’ve gained, rest­ing solidly on the foun­da­tion pro­vided to me by the clinic.

This pic­ture was taken last night as I was read­ing the stu­dents’ pre-trial motions in lim­ine and redacted exhibits the night before the trial. And, not coin­ci­den­tally, as I was plan­ning how to be the mean­est judge they’ll ever have the “plea­sure” of appear­ing before.

Bet­ter me than a real judge, though, no? Bet­ter to learn before it means some­thing to their bot­tom line, and their client’s. The lux­ury of being able to learn? Incred­i­ble. The joy of being able to teach? Even moreso. Every year I feel like I’ve been even meaner than the year before, and every year, the fac­ulty keep ask­ing me back. I guess I’m doing some­thing right, which is won­der­ful, because I feel like I learn some­thing every year I do it. Every year, one of the stu­dents has a novel approach to the same two fact pat­terns, or has an inter­est­ing way of argu­ing the same evi­den­tiary argu­ment. Some­times, they’ve just got a nice way of argu­ing or exam­in­ing, or a nice set of pos­tures, poses, and vocal into­na­tions. It’s the least I can do.

You can find links to oth­ers’ Love Thurs­day sub­mis­sions here, at Shut­ter Sis­ters.

Love Thursday

One of my favorite authors, Robin McKin­ley, writes of one of her char­ac­ters in one of her books that she needed rest, because she gave too freely of her­self– she needed time “putting back into her self.” While that par­tic­u­lar char­ac­ter turns out to be not sym­pa­thetic in the end, McKinley’s dis­cus­sion of how we drain our­selves and need recharg­ing is strong.

I very much feel this way about myself– I invest a lot (often too much) of myself in my day, in my inter­ac­tions. Maybe it’s the bipo­lar, maybe it’s just being too sen­si­tive, or too crit­i­cal, or fussy, or some­thing, or maybe it’s just the need to mon­i­tor my own out­put a bit bet­ter– in any event, by the time lunch rolls around, I need a lit­tle alone time, some putting back into myself. A half hour with a book and some food usu­ally does it, though I’m also try­ing to give myself a fif­teen minute break for tea and a cookie mid-afternoon. I cher­ish this time alone, and get quite cranky and unpro­duc­tive when I don’t have it.

But when I do? I can go back to giv­ing (too) freely of myself. Happy LT, all. May you find all the quiet moments you need, today and here­after. You can see other LT posts here.

Love Thursday

I love look­ing up at archi­tec­tural details. I love the details them­selves– the dif­fer­ent styles and eras, the dif­fer­ent mate­ri­als, shapes, sizes, choices. I love that the act of look­ing up, away from the path you’re tak­ing, lets you see some­thing unex­pected, that can make you stop. But most impor­tantly, I love the aes­thetic, which often seems for­got­ten today, that dic­tates the adorn­ment of pub­lic build­ing. It goes beyond my assump­tion that the dec­o­ra­tion is there for the sake of increas­ing the rep­u­ta­tion of the orig­i­nal building’s owner/commissioner. I think that aes­thetic extends to a once-held pub­lic belief that all aspects of our lives were worth for­mal­iz­ing, dec­o­rat­ing, mak­ing look their best.

Maybe it’s too expen­sive to design or exe­cute such “ornate” details any longer. Maybe it’s con­sid­ered out of “style” by mod­ern archi­tects or engi­neers. But I con­sider these older build­ings to be the con­structed equiv­a­lent of a hand­some man or woman in a natty suit, with coor­di­nat­ing pocket square or scarf or pin, and a jaunty fedora or shawl, topped off with a bou­ton­niere. I appre­ci­ate that they took the time to do them­selves up well, for their own sake, and I appre­ci­ate the respect that their dress denotes toward all with whom they inter­act. In com­par­i­son. the glass and con­crete tow­ers of today seem like pre­ten­tious, imma­ture, black-clad mod­els wear­ing ill-placed slashes of red lip­stick meant to shock, lin­ing the walls of a gallery open­ing where they don’t belong.  And any­way?  I love car­ven acan­thus leaves.

More Love Thurs­day sub­mis­sions can be found here.

Love Thursday

Old friends.

There’s noth­ing quite like them. I do love a new book, at the kitchen table, on the sofa, in my bag for on the train, in line, at lunch. But some­times, what I need is my dog-eared, water-marked from tub read­ing old friends– the kind of old friends you buy backup copies of, if you can, because you know that binding’s going to go any day now. And the old friends are there for me– when I’m sick, when I’m lonely, when I’m feel­ing mis­un­der­stood, before bed to ensure com­fort­able dreams.

I sup­pose it says some­thing that my favorite books are all fan­tasies about intel­li­gent char­ac­ters who feel lonely and are look­ing for some­thing com­plet­ing, but the fact that they find theirs always reas­sures me that I can find mine.

The solace of read­ing is some­thing that can be hard to describe in words. Susan Car­lin did it in paint, a piece called “After­noon Flight” that she recently posted on her blog.

Happy Love Thurs­day. For more links to other LT’ers, fol­low this link to Shut­ter Sis­ters.


Love Thursday

I have, at var­i­ous times, been more than a lit­tle emo­tion­ally repressed. Except when I cook– never then. Every time I get out the pots and pans, every time I pick up the knife, it’s meant as an expres­sion of love. I need to feed peo­ple– I need them to feel well-fed, sat­is­fied and happy at the end of a meal that I’ve made. And there’s no bet­ter feel­ing than when some­one pays me the com­pli­ment of pick­ing up their plate, and lick­ing it clean. I may not always suc­ceed at say­ing “I love you,” but I can cook “I love you” like nobody’s business.

I am lucky that most nights, my Bet­ter Half fin­ishes off his meal the same way– tongue to plate. It’s the aim of all my cooking.

Today, and every Thurs­day, is Love Thurs­day. A list­ing of other Love Thursday-ers can be found here, at Shut­ter Sis­ters.