Category Archives: politics

I am leery about conversations on feminism

… and yet, Joanne Lip­man had an inter­est­ing Op-Ed piece in the Times. What do you think?

Annals of electioneering

Yes­ter­day was the may­oral and city coun­cil pri­mary in town– now, Boston’s had the same mayor for six­teen years. We do that– unless something’s hor­ri­bly bro­ken, we mud­dle along. Hell, I some­times think Ray Flynn would still be mayor if he hadn’t been gun­ning for that Vat­i­can Ambas­sador thing– though really, and not to slam on the Catholics, but … Vat­i­can Ambas­sador? Not sexy, Ray.

Dur­ing the last may­oral race, there was one chal­lenger, a long-time coun­cil­lor whose theme was essen­tially “We can do better.”

Eh. She didn’t get many votes.

This time, though, there were almost a half-dozen chal­lengers for the may­oral seat, includ­ing a repub­li­can (a thing hardly heard of in munic­i­pal pol­i­tics) and a young councillor-at-large whose elec­tion was excit­ing when he first got his seat four years ago, sim­ply because he’s the first Asian-American to get a seat in Boston, as well as a teacher by pro­fes­sion. We’re a pretty white town when it comes to the politi­cians who get elected, so it was excit­ing to elect him and then see him be re-elected two years later. There were a num­ber of other can­di­dates, clearly, and for the first time in a while the councillor-at-large posi­tion was also con­tested enough to be sub­ject to the pri­mary, because this man was run­ning for mayor.

He didn’t make the cut for the gen­eral elec­tion– the more estab­lished city coun­cil­lor run­ning did that, and now Boston’s out a minor­ity at-large coun­cil­lor who (so far as these things go, which isn’t far, Boston’s exec­u­tive is very, very strong) did some good work for the neigh­bor­hoods and was at least a young voice with a dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive. There’s per­haps a longer post in here about expe­ri­ence or hubris or per­haps racism beyond a cer­tain layer of pol­i­tics, but to me, the fac­tor was this– he just hadn’t been doing this long enough for me to want to put him in as mayor.

I also didn’t vote for him, though, for the same rea­son I didn’t vote for other candidates.

I have had 56 pre-recorded tele­phone calls from that can­di­date and sev­eral other may­oral can­di­dates as well as some of the at-large con­tenders in the last month. 56. Includ­ing twice a day from this “young, excit­ing” may­oral can­di­date and another man run­ning for the at-large position.

You know– the Do Not Call list exists for a rea­son, and just because you’re a non-profit caller doesn’t mean peo­ple don’t find repeated calls extremely annoy­ing. A pre-recorded mes­sage ask­ing me to vote for you is not impres­sive. A pre-recorded mes­sage ask­ing me to vote for you fea­tur­ing voice record­ings from “ordi­nary peo­ple” that are cut off or gar­bled or non­sen­si­cal in their con­tent? I’m going to tell peo­ple what a pain in the ass your cam­paign is– which I also did when some of these sup­port­ers accosted me on the way into my polling place.

No, I won’t be vot­ing for X,” I said when they asked. “Your campaign’s been ring­ing my phone off the hook and it’s a nui­sance.” The vol­un­teer pooh-poohed it, but when I said “Twice a day,” she did look a lit­tle concerned.

Okay– I am being a bit of a crank here. As I said, I voted for some­body else because I didn’t think Excit­ing Young Man had the expe­ri­ence (and yes, the BH did crack on the com­par­i­son with our Pres­i­dent, but still, this can­di­date was no Barack Obama)– but hon­estly? If I don’t know any­thing about you except what you put out there in the media? The phone calls are a strikeout.

Rah. Damned elec­tion­eer­ing kids on my lawn, clog­ging my phone lines.

And … though expe­ri­ence counts, I will note that the peo­ple who came out on top in yesterday’s vot­ing were not the ones who were call­ing morn­ing, noon and night.

So– dear city elec­tion can­di­dates– Do Not Call with auto­mated mes­sages. The old ways of signs and per­sonal calls and vol­un­teers ring­ing on door­bells isn’t nearly so annoy­ing. Mmkay?

My best friend’s wedding…

Sort of.  My best friend A. is mar­ry­ing her girl­friend this week­end some­place out of state on Sun­day.  Except she’s not mar­ry­ing her girl­friend, not really.  There will be a wed­ding cer­e­mony affirmed by the Quaker Meet­ing in which they are mem­bers.  There will be fam­ily and friends from all over, includ­ing some, but not all, of A’s fam­ily, since as much as they like A.‘s girl­friend as a per­son, the wed­ding part is too much for some of them.  There will not be a legal cer­tifi­cate, how­ever, because their state doesn’t allow gay mar­riage and only rec­og­nizes out of state mar­riages by exec­u­tive order of the gov­er­nor– some­thing that can be over­turned by leg­isla­tive or judi­cial fiat any time, really.

If A. and E. lived here in Mass­a­chu­setts, they could get legally mar­ried.  Hell, I could get a spe­cial license and have the honor of per­form­ing the cer­e­mony.  If they lived in Con­necti­cut or Iowa or Ver­mont or Maine or Canada, they could get mar­ried.  But because their careers are where they are, so that they live where they do, they can’t be legally married.

It’s wrong– and immoral in a way that the fun­da­men­tal­ists have no pos­si­ble way of under­stand­ing because they’re so wrapped up in the out­ward trap­pings of biol­ogy that they’re blind to the ques­tion of what really mat­ters.  Is it love?

It unequiv­o­cally is.

Their rela­tion­ship has weath­ered rollercoaster-worthy ups and downs, sig­nif­i­cant time liv­ing apart while they worked on their grad­u­ate degrees, and is a rela­tion­ship– a friend­ship and erotic love char­ac­ter­ized by such hon­esty and hope that they can work through what­ever obsta­cles arise that I am abashed by the occa­sional moments of avoid­ance and fear that I let enter my deal­ings with my husband.

They’re not per­fect– nobody is.  But they’re brave and hon­est and true, and they deserve the same legal pro­tec­tions afforded to men and women who make that com­mit­ment to share their lives together.  Any­thing less is sim­ply wrong.

It’s not about X and Y chro­mo­somes.  It’s not about chil­dren (or those same fun­da­men­tal­ists should be work­ing to inval­i­date non-procreative het­ero­sex­ual mar­riages, too).  It’s about love.

You can learn more about the legal issues involved in gay mar­riage here at Lambda Legal.

Choose our best history

I stood in the kitchen at work with every­one else in my office– lawyers, part­ners, para­le­gals, assis­tants– watch­ing the innau­gu­ra­tion and Pres­i­dent Obama’s speech and feel­ing stern and jubiliant and proud and a wel­ter of things I don’t know I’d call hope.  But I’d call it relief.  I don’t think the speech is going down in the rhetor­i­cal speech hall of fame,  but was it timely and did it set the right tone?  Absolutely.  The con­cept embod­ied in “choose our best his­tory,” how­ever, really struck me.  Act from the best, the most eth­i­cal, the most prin­ci­pled, the most hard-working parts of who we are.  Don’t be com­pla­cent.  Don’t ignore our own found­ing prin­ci­ples.  It was a call to recall what it can really mean to be an Amer­i­can– if we choose our best history.

The Boston Globe’s Big Pic­ture Blog has some won­der­ful pho­tos from yes­ter­day that are taken all over the U.S. and the world.  The Mis­soula, MT ( # 22) and Bagh­dad ( #19) pho­tos are my favorites, I think.

International Relations

Not far from my office, there’s an Immi­gra­tion and Nat­u­ral­iza­tion Ser­vice Appli­ca­tion Sup­port Cen­ter.  The street it’s on is a lit­tle hard to find, in a war­ren of con­fus­ingly laid out one way streets– if you take the wrong turn, you have to cir­cle all the way back around and start all over again.  An apro­pos metaphor for the immi­gra­tion process, as I under­stand it– espe­cially since it can take for­ever to find park­ing on my block, and if you take the pub­lic trans­porta­tion sys­tem, well, the one we’re on has been expe­ri­enc­ing dis­abled trains and sig­nal delays.  Wel­come to America.

I’ve never gone in to the office, but the front win­dows are pretty wide, and afford a rep­re­sen­ta­tive view.  From what I can see, it looks like any other busy, entry level gov­ern­ment office.  A bunch of low-end office chairs in some­what lin­ear rows.  Older wooden benches.  Walls and walls of pam­phlets and signs in nearly every lan­guage known to man.  Coun­ters behind which tired-looking clerks of all nations speak with tired-looking appli­cants.  Basi­cally clean scuffed linoleum floors with util­ity rugs full of sand and slush laid over them dur­ing winter.

I think that they have dif­fer­ent lan­guage groups come in dif­fer­ent days of the week so they can arrange the inter­preters reg­u­larly– Wednes­day is for peo­ple who speak Span­ish, and I think Thurs­day morn­ing is for Por­tuguese and all vari­ants thereon, plus Hait­ian Cre­ole.  Thurs­day after­noon, any­one from Africa, though Boston seems to be hav­ing a lot of peo­ple from Uganda and Soma­lia these days.  There are peo­ple from Bangladesh, India and Pak­istan (Mon­day?) and Chi­nese Tues­day morn­ing.  Fri­day morn­ing seems to be pretty much all other groups from South­east Asia, and Arabic-speakers.  Fri­day after­noon, so far as I can tell, is for Cana­di­ans, Israelis and Euro­peans who speak Eng­lish fairly well– the clerks giv­ing them­selves a bit of a break at the end of the day.

Some of the appli­cants are in tra­di­tional cos­tume.  Some of them seem fully Amer­i­can­ized.  Some are poor.  Some seem to be doing very well, with Mer­cedes and warm coats and nice jew­elry.  A lot of them smoke out­side the front doors, and not just the poor ones.  Many, espe­cially those from more trop­i­cal climes, seem to be ill-equipped for New Eng­land win­ters, and I’ve more than once seen some­one who looks like they were over at the INS office ear­lier at the out­er­wear and equip­ment store buy­ing at least bet­ter hats and gloves, if not coats and more expen­sive things.  Some­one in the INS office has got to be send­ing them there, because it’s again on a warren-ous side street a few blocks over–  it’s not some­thing you’d find unless you were look­ing for it.

That some­thing they’re all look­ing for isn’t in that shabby appli­ca­tion sup­port sys­tem, but it’s an entry­way to some­thing they think they’ll find when it’s all done.  After nav­i­gat­ing the crazy streets it’s on, they nav­i­gate the crazy appli­ca­tion process.  Hope­fully, the sec­ond time they come back, it’s eas­ier to find.  And that their return trips finally get them to the end of the block and across the main cause­way, the easy to travel-road to the larger fed­eral build­ing.  That’s where they pho­to­graph the peo­ple who’ve fin­ished their cit­i­zen­ship class, a het­ero­ge­neous group of all nations, and not just your sup­port cen­ter lan­guage sub­group, and take pic­tures of the class on the front steps.  It hap­pens on Fri­day after­noons at 3.  I get up from my desk to watch that photo ses­sion every week– all those Mon­day through Fri­day appli­cants at the back of my build­ing now find­ing what they’re look­ing for, only one block, one main thor­ough­fare away.  A chance to stand with peo­ple they didn’t meet on their assigned morn­ing.  On a main street that you can look up and down– tell what’s com­ing at you from back­wards and for­wards.  A place wide enough to look up, down, for­ward and back.

I hope.